Learning how to say ‘no’.

It's always interesting how things will come into your space, repeatedly. Yesterday, I was listening to a Tim Ferriss podcast in which he was chatting to author Elizabeth Gilbert. One of the things they chatted about was saying 'no'. Not even two hours later, my son wanted a piece of my daughter's sandwich and her response was 'no'. He was now pressurising her to explain why she said 'no'. I jumped into the back and forth to tell him that she did not owe him an explanation, in the same way that he did not owe anyone an explanation, when he said 'no'. I was forced to learn this, painfully,...

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Conversations with your younger self

A common question in interviews is ‘what you would tell your 18, 20, 30, x year-old self?’ As we navigate the years, the hope is that we gain wisdom, learn things, evolve and progress from who we were to who we will become. With hindsight, it is easier to look back on the things we did, said and thought, and see a different way. On his podcast, The Tim Ferriss Show, Ferris often asks this question. I have been re-reading his book Tools of Titans which is a summary of interviews with over a hundred people. I was struck by the variety of answers, for those that were shared in the book. When...

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The power of journaling

I’ve been journaling relatively regularly for the last 3 to 4 years. It was prompted by finally getting around to reading Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way, in particularly the section on Morning Pages. On her site, she explains what these are: “Morning Pages are three pages of longhand, stream of consciousness writing, done first thing in the morning. *There is no wrong way to do Morning Pages*– they are not high art. They are not even “writing.” They are about anything and everything that crosses your mind– and they are for your eyes only. Morning Pages provoke, clarify, comfort, cajole,...

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Redesigning Life

Reading Tim Ferriss’ The Four-Hour Work Week changed my life. Or, at least, changed my perspectives which had me re-evaluate my life. It introduced me to the idea of Lifestyle Design, which is a concept defined and popularised by Ferriss. According to www.dictionary.sensagent.com, “lifestyle design is the design of one's ideal lifestyle, especially an unconventional one, providing good opportunities for personal growth, leisure, and adventure. Detailed methods include career planning, entrepreneurship, and travel.” In the book, Ferriss shares...

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